also, these are relevant
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read them. not that i agree 100% with all therein, but they’re important pieces.
some insight into why people in marginalized groups might not want to hold your hand, be nice, coddle you, and educate you about all the ways in which they are fucked over when you make an insensitive comment, hold a fucked up view, or whatever.
hint: sometimes WE ARE JUST FUCKING TIRED OF DEALING WITH THAT SHIT CONSTANTLY.